8 Things to Strengthen the Husband-Wife Relationship in Islam

And one of His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them. And He has placed between you compassion and mercy. Surely in this are signs for people who reflect. (Quran 30:21).

Good Attitude

Prophet (ﷺ) said, if you dislike one of his/her characteristics, you will be pleased with the other characteristics. Don’t be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more.

Help One Another

Prophet (ﷺ) stressed the importance of men helping their wives and as mentioned in the Quran above, Allah tells us the importance of women being mates and helpers to their husbands. Husband and wife helping and supporting each other will result in a strong relationship. Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Don’t take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated.


Prophet (ﷺ) is wellknown for always tell the thruth and trustworthy even before his prophethood. The relation between husband and wife is a sacred one. It can be nourished through friendship and trust.

Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse. Prophet (ﷺ) said in a hadist that the most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of judgment will be those men who divulges their wife’s secrets to others.


Prophet (ﷺ) is wellknown for always be respectfull to his people. He always give full attention when sombody speak to him. Giving respect is mandatory for all Muslims toward all people, even more toward the spouse. Follow the principle of ‘Shura,” and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed, and everyone feels that they had some part in making them.


Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu’minin:

“while she was on a journey along with the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ): I had a race with him and I outstripped him on my feet. When I became fleshy, I had a race with him (again) and he outstripped me. He said: This is for that outstripping.”

Forgive and Forget

Whoever does not forgive – will not be forgiven. We must learn to forgive each others for a good spouse relationship in Islam. Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. Be very careful what you say when you are upset. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation. Don’t bring up past problems once they have been solved.

Spend Time Together

Spend time together and talk to each other. Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving. Show interest in your mate’s life. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. The Prophet is known to have helped his wives in the house for daily chores. Try to eat together as a family when possible.

Worship together

Prophet (ﷺ) used to lead his wife in prayer, even though his house connected to the mosque. He told us not to make our homes like grave yards. We should offer some of our Sunnah prayers at home with our family.

It has been made permissible for you to be intimate with your wives during the nights preceding the fast. Your spouses are a garment for you as you are for them. Allah knows that you were deceiving yourselves. So He has accepted your repentance and pardoned you. So now you may be intimate with them and seek what Allah has prescribed for you. (Quran 2:187).

Nobody is Perfect

Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) was reported to have said: ‘The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives”

Praise be to Allah, Who made marriage a noble tradition in Islam, and a barrier between Halal and Haram. Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work.

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